I think it's a good thing to love with someone prior to marriage so that you get the chance to know each other. I don't think it should occur for a long time however because it takes away from the sacred union that you are about to embark on with each other.
I think living with someone by any stretch of the imagination unless a roomate situation is playing house. Playing house is living like a married couple without being married its false advertisement you are not going to learn anything more about a person then they want you to know just by living with them. Regardless they could be a total different person after the move. Learn what you can in two different places if they can maintain there own spot then then can help maintain yall spot together.
Two mature adults will make their own decisions despite traditions rules. Never say never, but I would prefer to get to know someone in my own space. I agree that living together is playing house. Why play house when you can build a house under the umbrella of matrimony?
Ahhhh "Shacking up"...It's so taboo in the African-American Christian community, but there are pros and cons to every decision made in a relationship. I read that couples who "live in sin" prior to getting married are more likely to get divorced than those who do not...BUT if financial difficulty is the number one reason for divorce, then it may be smart to live together and split the bills.
I look at marriage as being a legal term. It's not a necessity for me personally. I don't need a ring to be my guy's wife esoterically and that's the level that I'm on. As long as he and I know what's going on, no-thing else matters.
I definitely can't see living with someone and we're not married. I need to see your environment at your spot to see if I could deal with that at my spot. If I can then after we are married living together isn't a problem. Just being real though, I like my ish' a certain way, it may sound selfish but just how I am. So I would rather he have his spot and I have mine.
I think it's a good thing to love with someone prior to marriage so that you get the chance to know each other. I don't think it should occur for a long time however because it takes away from the sacred union that you are about to embark on with each other.
ReplyDeleteI think living with someone by any stretch of the imagination unless a roomate situation is playing house. Playing house is living like a married couple without being married its false advertisement you are not going to learn anything more about a person then they want you to know just by living with them. Regardless they could be a total different person after the move. Learn what you can in two different places if they can maintain there own spot then then can help maintain yall spot together.
ReplyDeleteTwo mature adults will make their own decisions despite traditions rules. Never say never, but I would prefer to get to know someone in my own space. I agree that living together is playing house. Why play house when you can build a house under the umbrella of matrimony?
ReplyDeleteAhhhh "Shacking up"...It's so taboo in the African-American Christian community, but there are pros and cons to every decision made in a relationship. I read that couples who "live in sin" prior to getting married are more likely to get divorced than those who do not...BUT if financial difficulty is the number one reason for divorce, then it may be smart to live together and split the bills.
ReplyDeleteI look at marriage as being a legal term. It's not a necessity for me personally. I don't need a ring to be my guy's wife esoterically and that's the level that I'm on. As long as he and I know what's going on, no-thing else matters.
ReplyDeleteI definitely can't see living with someone and we're not married. I need to see your environment at your spot to see if I could deal with that at my spot. If I can then after we are married living together isn't a problem. Just being real though, I like my ish' a certain way, it may sound selfish but just how I am. So I would rather he have his spot and I have mine.
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